I am.

Who are you? How do you think of yourself? What questions should people ask to find out what really matters to you? 

I have found that the best way to learn about me and how people perceive me, is to ask people I have connected with what they tell their friends. That is real. And has taught me a lot. There is truth in that. 🙂 

I put up a new bio yesterday. For people that asked about me, I said “If you really want to know about me, read through this.” It’s a lot.

I tried to condense a lifetime of experience and history into something that is informative, but hopefully still readable. I have not had a typical life. Ideally it gives you a little bit of insight into me. But it still barely, softly scratches the surface. It’s not really deep. It doesn’t show the pain, and the joy, the struggle and the moments of power and achievement. But it does give a little context. And that makes for better conversation.

But what is the norm? I sent it to one person, and her reply was “It’s soooooooooo long. Just tell me how tall you are, your education, and how much money you make.” I didn’t learn anything from that. She didn’t gain anything either. But, the intentions are different.

It’s easy for us, in the culture we exist in, to fall back on the idea that “I am” is Job > Money > Looks > Education > Life Plan > and then maybe somewhere down the line is what kind of person you are, what you want out of life, what matters to you, and how you treat the people around you. Wouldn’t it be nice if you could start out knowing that the person you are connecting with is kind, open, honest, clear, and genuine? Then all the normal stuff is a bonus, and not the baseline. 

I want to know. I want more. I want to understand what you want. And why. And whether what you want is really what you need. I want to know what experiences led you to where you are today. What you’ve learned from them. What you still need to learn. I want to know what you want out of life, why you think you’re here living it. 

If you’re curious enough to read it, let me know ben@howwasyourday.ca and I’ll send you the link. I’m happy to share. And listen to what you think.

I am a beacon. I am a parent, a friend, a lover, and a seeker. I am kind, considerate, generous, and I have genuine empathy. I have been broken. I will sacrifice myself for others (which has not always served me well). I will risk everything for what I believe in. I know what it takes to realize mastery. I have known what it feels like to be truly loved. And I have loved, with abandon. I am never satisfied. I always want more

The why is what matters.

Who are you?


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